I'm always amused when people talk about haters and how they cant stop their shine and all that. It cracks me up, I tell ya.
And if you listen to HipHop, rap specifically, you'll see this haters business has been taken 2 a whole different level- A more amusing level (to me, that is).
I'm of the school of thought that the only person that can stop you is the person that stares back at you when you look in the mirror. (Err... Just be sure there's no one behind U when U do that). But I cant deny the existence of folks who don't like other folks for some strange reason or no reason at all. As in, they just take a look at you and decide you're not likable. These folks will go out of their way to try to hurt your feelings and/or make you feel small. Like the guy who wrote on my wall telling me "In your mind you think you'll be d next Asa abi?", or the guy who said I should stop taking close-up photos cos they emphasise ALL my facial flaws (him papa) hahahaha, and many others too embarrassing to mention.
Funny tho. But I'm still growing n learning. And if I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't have taken these people off my friends list, cos the fact is WE ALL NEED HATERS. To propel us to work harder, to stir us into vowing 2 not rest until we reach our promised land. I wonder where David would be without Saul and Goliath, like Moses and Pharaoh, the Israelites and the philistines, Mandela and the government of his hay-days, and so on and so forth.
I'm just saying if we were empty and our future was just the regular, nothing spectacular, then noone would feel threatened enough to want to distract us with little, petty stuff, away from the bigger, brighter picture. And so, I'm using this medium to thank my haters. I appreciate you. Cos in a way you can see what I may be too short-sighted to see. I may see the struggles, the pains and the disappointments, the constant broke-ness, the relentless hustlings, etc etc. But U know wat U see. I give God thanks 4 what U see.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
April tales
I am learning a lot these days. Safe to say, I am growing. I have learnt from my bottled up pain, anger and disappointments, which although made me tougher and a bit angry, has thankfully not taken away the Love in my heart. I thank God I can still care, feel, and reach out, even if some people are resistant to affection probably due to stuff that happened to them.
I currently do not have a manager as a musician and if you fit the bill, please apply.
I’m not really worried that I have to DIY (Ok, do it myself most times), but I need that extra person that believes in me enough to say, “HEY!!! So what if you’re depressed and mourning a lost love, Get your ass up and go perform at this gig, or Taruwa for that matter!”
Someone who knows what it means to be a struggling, sometimes broke musician, one who can correct in Love, who isn’t insecure, isn’t perfect but wont settle for less, with good moral standards. One I can respect and can love me back.
Cos you see, I am strong willed. It isn't always a good trait. I tend to always want to have my way.
I sleep until ten in the morning and need a horse to drag me out of bed if I have to wake up earlier than that. I also like good food and I’m working on my tolerance level so please bear with me, as I’m “UNDER CONSTRUCTION” like most federal government roads in Nigeria.
Moving on, I just got off a tour of some campuses/states across Nigeria. I couldn’t afford to go with my own cameramen/photographer, so I don’t have great copies of performances and pictures I’d like to upload. I wish I had four hands, I’d play the guitar with two and film my performances with the other two, but alas, I’m just a normal human being like you :)
But I’ll see what I can do about the uploads.
Last week, I was out of town. Some stuff went down and its safe to say “unpleasant shit” happened.
Now, a dear friend of mine has been trying to teach me for years now about the difference between a “Nice” person, and a “Good” person.
Well I learnt in a week what he’d been trying to teach me in two years.
A nice person will do stuff for people because it’s within his/her power and may not cause him/her any discomfort. I.e. “I have three million naira lying dormant in my account, it’s no biggy if I give the starving Olaniyan family, five thousand naira.
The good guy, on the other hand, GOES OUT OF HIS WAY to help people. A good person busts his ass to be there for whomever needs him/her and God help you if you’re family (not blood type family) it’s almost an obsession.
When a good person is powerless to give help, you can hear/feel it in the way they act. They will call ,SMS , beep and check up on you frequently to see if other doors have opened.
I was happy that I knew a lot of nice people, but I thank God for His blessings. For every nice people I know, He gave me two good people. It almost brings me to tears when I reminisce on how people showed me love these past two weeks. I am biting my lips to keep from naming names, but seriously I want to be like you when I grow up :)Thanks ever so much.
PRAYER POINT: Dear Lord help me be a good/better person :)
Talking about heartbreaks, I’m currently heartbroken because one of my best mates lost his elder sister.
I’m not going to dwell much on it because I have a feeling he wouldn’t want me to. But I’m extra hurt when I see how hurt my friend is. My friend is a good person, and despite the hurt and grief he was going through, he still created space to be there for me. I respect and love him too much.
Still on best friends, I heard of a recent case where two friends had their sights set on one guy. Long and short is girl A met said guy first and became friends with him. She liked him but was taking her time. Guy knew girl A liked him.
Now, her friend, girl B meets said guy at some church event and knowing fully well her friend liked him, struck a chord with him, and started going on dates with guy.
Girl A finds out, throws a tantrum, to which girl B replies “He said you guys are just friends and nothing else”.
I’m amused about the matter because hey, Shouldn’t you stick to what your “friend” says and ignore the words of some horny guy who’s probably just looking to get laid?
Is it wise to pick the words of a stranger over those of your friends?
And if the “love” or lust runs its course and is gone and everyone moves on;
Should you trust such a friend?
Pretend some seeds of “wariness” have not being sown?
Ignore the voices in your head that says they will do it again, and this time to someone you may actually love?
THIS IS BECOMING A LONG ASS NOTE, BUT KEEP READING. (If you’re still awake).
I wish more people would come to realize good friends are hard to come by. Forget the facebook or twitter or cyber mirage. Your friends are people who know where you live and real stuff about you others don’t know.
All others are acquaintances or maybe budding friendship(s).
We ruin great relationships sometimes because we fail to separate who we are with other people from who we are with friends and family. If you’re the office gossip at your work place, do not bring it into your circle of friends.
It goes to you if you are the office bitch or controlling boss, don’t bring it home or to your friends, and act like people are kids you can talk to however you please. Love is not enough. People are sensitive, have egos and eventually won’t be able to stand you. #Iamjustsaying
Lately I have met people who complain about how they help people and those people turn out to abandon them, or steal their friends or contacts or whatever.
We need to understand that life is a spinning circle. What you do will come back to you. Good or bad.
If you do good to others, expect no rewards, if you do, you lose a bigger reward. If you can, forget any good you do to others, just let it go.
And nobody can steal your friends or contacts. If they were so loyal in the first place, trust me, they won’t bail on you so quickly. Yes, some people are wired to be ungrateful, but understand that we all are probably over 18, and can make decisions. Also don’t forget to remember, :) that there is a provision for freedom of association in our constitution.
Besides, isn’t there a slight chance you’ve “stolen” friends from people? Eh? Just think back a bit, after all we’re not all brown eyes and innocent faces..
ABOUT LOVE…. (The man and woman type :))
I want love. I think we all do. I don’t know about needing it for now. I’m too afraid.
How does one go from being in a committed relationship for eight years, to breaking out in sweats when thinking of marriage? I don’t know, please don’t ask.
I think I need some more time, I’m not trying to give anyone a hard time, I just need to chill a bit.
I’m not a fan of intense love, the one where you fall sick when you don’t see him in a week or where you’re all up in each others faces i.e facebook+yahoo messenger+text messages+phone calls+skype+Gtalk+Twitter+Myspace+all the other social networking sites and tools. JEEZ!! And we wonder where the romance and MYSTERY went?
Some of my cheeky close friends ask me about "that thing". “How do you cope without it?” They ask.
Errr………………………………….. hehehehehehehehehe
Let’s just say I’m saving myself for marriage, hehehehehehe
WAIT OH…. Remember the title of this note oh, “LIFE, ISSUES, AND SOME FICTION ”
So there’s a disclaimer notice.
I don’t need someone to swoop me off my feet and save me like Lois and Clarke of Superman fame. Just need a good person who likes to laugh and is content with holding hands. For now. :)
I currently do not have a manager as a musician and if you fit the bill, please apply.
I’m not really worried that I have to DIY (Ok, do it myself most times), but I need that extra person that believes in me enough to say, “HEY!!! So what if you’re depressed and mourning a lost love, Get your ass up and go perform at this gig, or Taruwa for that matter!”
Someone who knows what it means to be a struggling, sometimes broke musician, one who can correct in Love, who isn’t insecure, isn’t perfect but wont settle for less, with good moral standards. One I can respect and can love me back.
Cos you see, I am strong willed. It isn't always a good trait. I tend to always want to have my way.
I sleep until ten in the morning and need a horse to drag me out of bed if I have to wake up earlier than that. I also like good food and I’m working on my tolerance level so please bear with me, as I’m “UNDER CONSTRUCTION” like most federal government roads in Nigeria.
Moving on, I just got off a tour of some campuses/states across Nigeria. I couldn’t afford to go with my own cameramen/photographer, so I don’t have great copies of performances and pictures I’d like to upload. I wish I had four hands, I’d play the guitar with two and film my performances with the other two, but alas, I’m just a normal human being like you :)
But I’ll see what I can do about the uploads.
Last week, I was out of town. Some stuff went down and its safe to say “unpleasant shit” happened.
Now, a dear friend of mine has been trying to teach me for years now about the difference between a “Nice” person, and a “Good” person.
Well I learnt in a week what he’d been trying to teach me in two years.
A nice person will do stuff for people because it’s within his/her power and may not cause him/her any discomfort. I.e. “I have three million naira lying dormant in my account, it’s no biggy if I give the starving Olaniyan family, five thousand naira.
The good guy, on the other hand, GOES OUT OF HIS WAY to help people. A good person busts his ass to be there for whomever needs him/her and God help you if you’re family (not blood type family) it’s almost an obsession.
When a good person is powerless to give help, you can hear/feel it in the way they act. They will call ,SMS , beep and check up on you frequently to see if other doors have opened.
I was happy that I knew a lot of nice people, but I thank God for His blessings. For every nice people I know, He gave me two good people. It almost brings me to tears when I reminisce on how people showed me love these past two weeks. I am biting my lips to keep from naming names, but seriously I want to be like you when I grow up :)Thanks ever so much.
PRAYER POINT: Dear Lord help me be a good/better person :)
Talking about heartbreaks, I’m currently heartbroken because one of my best mates lost his elder sister.
I’m not going to dwell much on it because I have a feeling he wouldn’t want me to. But I’m extra hurt when I see how hurt my friend is. My friend is a good person, and despite the hurt and grief he was going through, he still created space to be there for me. I respect and love him too much.
Still on best friends, I heard of a recent case where two friends had their sights set on one guy. Long and short is girl A met said guy first and became friends with him. She liked him but was taking her time. Guy knew girl A liked him.
Now, her friend, girl B meets said guy at some church event and knowing fully well her friend liked him, struck a chord with him, and started going on dates with guy.
Girl A finds out, throws a tantrum, to which girl B replies “He said you guys are just friends and nothing else”.
I’m amused about the matter because hey, Shouldn’t you stick to what your “friend” says and ignore the words of some horny guy who’s probably just looking to get laid?
Is it wise to pick the words of a stranger over those of your friends?
And if the “love” or lust runs its course and is gone and everyone moves on;
Should you trust such a friend?
Pretend some seeds of “wariness” have not being sown?
Ignore the voices in your head that says they will do it again, and this time to someone you may actually love?
THIS IS BECOMING A LONG ASS NOTE, BUT KEEP READING. (If you’re still awake).
I wish more people would come to realize good friends are hard to come by. Forget the facebook or twitter or cyber mirage. Your friends are people who know where you live and real stuff about you others don’t know.
All others are acquaintances or maybe budding friendship(s).
We ruin great relationships sometimes because we fail to separate who we are with other people from who we are with friends and family. If you’re the office gossip at your work place, do not bring it into your circle of friends.
It goes to you if you are the office bitch or controlling boss, don’t bring it home or to your friends, and act like people are kids you can talk to however you please. Love is not enough. People are sensitive, have egos and eventually won’t be able to stand you. #Iamjustsaying
Lately I have met people who complain about how they help people and those people turn out to abandon them, or steal their friends or contacts or whatever.
We need to understand that life is a spinning circle. What you do will come back to you. Good or bad.
If you do good to others, expect no rewards, if you do, you lose a bigger reward. If you can, forget any good you do to others, just let it go.
And nobody can steal your friends or contacts. If they were so loyal in the first place, trust me, they won’t bail on you so quickly. Yes, some people are wired to be ungrateful, but understand that we all are probably over 18, and can make decisions. Also don’t forget to remember, :) that there is a provision for freedom of association in our constitution.
Besides, isn’t there a slight chance you’ve “stolen” friends from people? Eh? Just think back a bit, after all we’re not all brown eyes and innocent faces..
ABOUT LOVE…. (The man and woman type :))
I want love. I think we all do. I don’t know about needing it for now. I’m too afraid.
How does one go from being in a committed relationship for eight years, to breaking out in sweats when thinking of marriage? I don’t know, please don’t ask.
I think I need some more time, I’m not trying to give anyone a hard time, I just need to chill a bit.
I’m not a fan of intense love, the one where you fall sick when you don’t see him in a week or where you’re all up in each others faces i.e facebook+yahoo messenger+text messages+phone calls+skype+Gtalk+Twitter+
Some of my cheeky close friends ask me about "that thing". “How do you cope without it?” They ask.
Errr………………………………….. hehehehehehehehehe
Let’s just say I’m saving myself for marriage, hehehehehehe
WAIT OH…. Remember the title of this note oh, “LIFE, ISSUES, AND SOME FICTION ”
So there’s a disclaimer notice.
I don’t need someone to swoop me off my feet and save me like Lois and Clarke of Superman fame. Just need a good person who likes to laugh and is content with holding hands. For now. :)
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